by A deepthroat is the ultimate kick of many men. But blowjobs with depth must be learned. Gag reflexes and watery eyes quickly put a spoke in many couples’ wheel.
But don’t worry: In this article, we’ll show you how deepthroating really works and how you can train yourself to get rid of that annoying gag reflex.
Deepthroat is a popular sex fantasy
Let’s start this article with a little trivia question. It is: what is the name of the most commercially successful movie of all time?
Probably now many would guess a blockbuster like “Titanic” or “Avatar”. But it’s the porn flick “Deep Throat” – it cost just 25,000 US dollars to make and ended up grossing more than 24,000 times that amount, around 600 million US dollars.
The plot of this porn movie is quickly told. The main actress Linda Lovelace has never had an orgasm. Even wild group sex orgies do not bring her the desired satisfaction. A doctor finally discovers the unbelievable: Linda’s clitoris is not in her private parts as usual, but deep in her throat. To experience a real orgasm, she therefore needs intense oral sex.
Linda eventually starts working as a doctor’s assistant – how could it be otherwise in a porn movie – and orally satisfies not only her own cravings, but also those of the patients.
As absurd as the story of this vintage movie from the 1970s may be, it shows very clearly how fascinating the subject of “blowjobs” was – and still is – for many people. Even today, some 50 years after the film’s release, the “deepthroat” category is one of the most clicked sex practices on porn sites.
Definition: What is deepthroat?
Literally, “deepthroat” can be translated from English as “deep throat” – and immediately makes it clear what it’s all about: while in a normal blowjob the penis is taken between the lips and artfully played around by the tongue, in a deepthroat it is pushed as deep as possible into the throat.
Especially for beginners, this is often not so easy, because the body quickly triggers a gag reflex. Attention: Danger of vomiting!
But don’t panic: How you can train yourself the annoying gag reflex for the throat fuck, you will learn below.
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Why are many men into deepthroating?
Why many men find this form of oral satisfaction particularly appealing is quickly explained: Deepthroat creates a feeling of tightness around the tip of the penis. The further the penis can penetrate the throat, the more intense the male pleasure sensation is accordingly.
Also in the paysex area a sought-after service
No wonder that deepthroat is also a sought-after service in the paysex area. However, this is (usually) only offered by escorts and whores on request and for a corresponding surcharge.
Here applies: Who would like to get his money’s worth and also experience a real deepthroat blowjob, should definitely inquire about extra services and rates with the corresponding whore beforehand. By the way, deepthroating without a rubber is forbidden in Germany since the introduction of the Prostitute Protection Act.
Deepthroat training: instructions for beginners
The truth about deepthroat is that only very few people can override their gag reflex in a controlled way without training. For the vast majority, the first thing to do is practice, practice, practice. The following deepthroat guide is designed to help you better control your gag reflex during oral sex.
The good news first: Deepthroat can be learned! Try using a toothbrush to penetrate as far down your throat as possible until your natural gag reflex kicks in. Congratulations, you’ve found your new pleasure center.
Now it is called: Don’t give up right away. Try to leave your toothbrush there for a few seconds and ignore the gag reflex.
Breathe relaxed through your nose and try to relax. You’ll see that regular training helps to move your gag reflex further back. With proper training (e.g. once a day) you can become a real deep throat expert in a few weeks.
With increasing training experience, you can then also use toys that are more similar to a penis than your toothbrush, e.g. a banana or a dildo. If you successfully manage to insert a dildo orally (and don’t throw up immediately), you’re ready for your first real deepthroat.
These are the most popular deepthroat sex positions
A good deepthroat blowjob requires two things: lots of training and the right sex position. Because not every position is suitable for deepthroating. The following three deepthroat positions are especially popular for fucking:
Sitting: You surely know this position from many feature films. While he sits normally – like in a car – looking straight ahead, she bends over his lap. The advantage: She retains full control during the blowjob and can gradually feel her way forward.
Cliffhanger: In the so-called “cliffhanger”, the woman lies on her back while the man kneels in front of her. By hyperextending the neck, the throat is opened particularly wide, which minimizes the likelihood of a gag reflex. Great trust between both partners is a prerequisite here.
69er: Here both sexes get their money’s worth. By lying upside down on top of each other, the partners can satisfy each other orally at the same time.
Tips and tricks for the perfect deepthroat blowjob
The golden rule when deepthroating is: In the calm lies the power. Performing a deepthroat unprepared right at the first attempt is almost impossible. However, don’t be discouraged by possible failed attempts!
No master has ever fallen from the sky. The more you try it and the more experience you gain with blowjobs, the better your deepthroat skills will become over time.
And also for men: Give your counterpart enough time. For most women (and also men) deepthroating is a great challenge that requires special trust. Because only those who are able to let themselves fall 100% during sex will also have fun in the long run.
An insider tip for all who want to play it safe when blowing: There are now special deepthroat sprays to buy that temporarily override your gag reflex.
Pure dominance: Deepthroating in BDSM
Since deepthroating is an extreme variation of oral sex that requires the complete surrender of the submissive part, it is also a popular sex practice in the BDSM scene.
The power imbalance is particularly pronounced here: While the submissive partner fights against his own gag reflex during deepthroating and literally “gasps for air,” the active partner can fully display his dominance.
Unlike conventional deepthroating, the point here is not to control the gag reflex at all, but to play with it or even provoke it. In BDSM circles, this is also referred to as gagging.
The throat fuck provides a special feeling for both man and woman
The members of the erotic portal Joyclub write about their deepthroat experiences almost only positive, for example, “For the man it is a super feeling.
Some also emphasize that women enjoy it just as much: “For me as a woman, it’s absolutely cool to see how my boyfriend gets off on it” or “Not only that my girlfriend does it great. She also visibly has so much fun doing it – and that’s what I like the most” is said in the thread. Is there perhaps a little Linda Lovelace in many women who carries her pleasure center in her throat?
Whatever the case, dear men: You should appreciate the efforts of your partner in any case benevolently and return the favor at the next opportunity – for example, with an intense cunnilingus.
