by More and more people – preferably men – are booking sexual services with prostitutes or escorts. Nevertheless, many customers do not know: What do I have to pay attention to when dealing with sex workers? How do I behave properly? The sex worker community Kaufmich has published a guide that presents the most important rules of conduct for fair communication and respectful interaction during paysex, so that both sides feel comfortable in the future.
Which paysex rules apply to my region?
As is so often the case when booking a sex worker, comprehensive preparation is the key! This means, last but not least, that you should familiarize yourself with the rules, laws and local customs for this particular encounter.
For example, in some cities such as Munich, a so-called restricted area ordinance prevents escorts from visiting their clients in hotels located in the restricted area. Some cities have their own red light district or street prostitution, whereby prostitution is permitted in a specified area.
In addition, the Prostitute Protection Act (ProstSchG) came into force for all of Germany in October 2016, requiring the use of a condom during sex for sale – including oral sex. This serves to protect both the client and the sex worker. AO sex, i.e. sex without a condom, is not an option.
Since control authorities regularly check prostitutes and escorts for compliance with laws and safety is a top priority anyway, customers should avoid asking for exceptions.
The sex worker sets limits and taboos independently
Sexual preferences vary from person to person. Likewise, not every sex worker is ready for every sex practice, but sets certain limits and establishes taboos.
As a customer, you should therefore select the prostitute or escort according to your own wishes. For example, if you are interested in anal sex, girlfriend sex, golden shower, foot fetish or BDSM, you should not go to a lady who has independently defined these practices as taboo.
Exploring boundaries here is usually not worthwhile and only leads to mistrust. Taboo means taboo and should be accepted. An understanding approach is important in this regard.
Financial matters should be clarified in advance – unsolicited!
A respectful and polite demeanor toward the sex worker – even during the preliminary conversation by phone or in writing by e-mail – naturally makes it easier. This also includes addressing things openly, not least the financial aspect.
So that the sex can take place later unencumbered by this topic, you as a customer should therefore best hand over the agreed sum directly at the beginning without being asked. This shows the sex worker that she can trust you. As a result, nothing more stands in the way of the pleasurable experience.
With a well-groomed appearance, sex with an escort is twice as much fun
Appearance is known not everything, but a well-groomed shell gives now times a good first impression.
This does not mean that you have to be visually an Adonis 2.0 – who is? Rather, it’s about personal hygiene. Before the date with a sex worker, you should shower, wash your hair, brush your teeth and whatever else belongs to personal hygiene. And do not forget to clean also his best friend between the legs including the two crown jewels.
If you receive an escort at home, you should also be able to show a cleaned and tidy apartment and provide the lady with a clean towel so that she can shower and dry off after sex.
Alcohol and Viagra should be used with caution
Nervousness before a date with a prostitute or escort is completely normal. Especially if it is the first meeting of this kind.
However, to numb the excitement with alcohol would not be a good idea. Because thereby the inhibitions fade, the stamina can decrease and possibly it increases the aggressiveness. This is not a good basis for an erotic mood and a pleasurable relationship.
Likewise, you should not take any potency-enhancing drugs – and if you do, then only in consultation with the sex worker. Viagra, Poppers and Co. have a number of side effects, for example, they can make aggressive, similar to alcohol.
No questions about the private life of prostitutes
One thing should not be forgotten: Although it is about sex and pleasurable moments, venal love is still the profession of the sex worker. She earns her money with it.
Therefore, it would be inappropriate to ask questions that are too private. Because most sex workers strictly separate their private lives from their profession – and for good reason.
In society, despite increasing tolerance and acceptance, there are still certain prejudices against prostitutes and escorts. Sex work is not recognized by everyone, which is why many women who work in this trade do so secretly. Not even friends and family initiate them.
Nevertheless, it may happen that a sex worker spills the beans about private matters on her own. Should this be the case, you can of course be happy to respond. But really only then.
The difference between porn and real sex with a whore
Anyone who has ever seen an erotic film – and this certainly applies to most – should beware of wanting to achieve similar top performances during sex with a prostitute or escort. Because: Porn is posed, edited and therefore reflects reality only to a limited extent.
An escort date should therefore not be confused with sex as in porn, which quickly leads to fears of failure. Just stay calm, put away your nervousness and remember that in real sex, not everything always goes as smoothly as porn actors make it look.
However, some escorts also offer a porn experience, which is a euphemism for the fact that they don’t get down to it tenderly, but in a particularly wild and kinky way.
More anonymity by choosing a pseudonym
Not only many sex workers want to keep their identity as secret as possible, the customers often feel the same way. After all, you don’t even like to tell your best friend that you paid for sex.
But even secrecy doesn’t protect you from unintentionally revealing this juicy secret to the public. For more anonymity and discretion, however, there is a very simple option: Instead of booking a sex meeting with a prostitute or escort under his real name, you simply use a pseudonym.
Many sex workers also disguise their identity in this way. So why not just do the same for them as a customer?
Romance plays no role in sex work
The saying “business is business” also applies to the paysex sector. Anyone who books a prostitute or escort should not play with the idea that the meeting will develop into more than a one-time, lustful experience. Fun without obligations is the motto, no love affair or romance.
This also means that you should not approach a sex worker you have recently visited if you happen to meet her on the street. Especially not if she is in company. If, on the other hand, the signal comes from her and she greets you, you can of course say hello back. However, you should not do anything of the sort without being asked.
Be attentive and help prostitutes in a predicament
A very important rule: If you notice that a sex worker is not carrying out her activity voluntarily, you should definitely talk to her about it and, if necessary, inform the police. Unfortunately, forced prostitution is still an issue.
If verbal communication with the prostitute or escort is not possible due to a language barrier, you should still try. If necessary with hands and feet.
Clients who look the other way and ignore the suffering of a sex worker inevitably make themselves complicit. Filing a complaint anonymously is therefore not just a moral obligation, but a legal must.
